How Childhood Experiences May Impact Your Adult Life


Do you ever feel like you are struggling with things you shouldn’t have to work so hard at? It is pretty standard for people to struggle with issues from their childhood well into adulthood. Below, we will discuss five ways that your childhood may be affecting your adult life. If you can identify the root of your problems, you can work on fixing them through adult therapy.  

1. Difficulties With Socializing 

It is not uncommon for those who experienced neglect or abuse as a child to struggle with social skills and forming meaningful friendships later in life. If you were taught as a child that you are worthless or never good enough, then it can be challenging to feel any different as an adult. If you’ve talked about this to others, they might have told you that it’s not true and it was just your parents being strict or showing tough love. But how can they understand what growing up was like for you? 

The truth is that people who grew up in these types of families often struggle with extreme feelings of inadequacy and neglect. This can cause problems in adulthood with forming romantic relationships or friendships and even holding a steady job. 

2. Problems With Depression, Anxiety, and Stress 

Individuals raised by abusive parents are more likely to become depressed or anxious adults. If you have ever struggled with depression, anxiety, and stress, it is essential to understand that your feelings are valid and not something to be ashamed of. You can also look into getting help by seeing a psychologist for counseling. 

3. Unhealthy Relationships 

If you experienced abuse as a child, you may not know better than to seek out abusive friends later in life. This is because you are trying to recreate the abusive relationship pattern you know so well. This pattern of abuse may even extend into romantic relationships as well. If your parents were constantly fighting or broken up, you might be drawn to continually breaking up with people or never committing to your relationships. 

 4. Low Self-Esteem 

If you were neglected or abused as a child, you are likely to have low self-esteem as an adult. This is because you never learned how to love yourself properly. As adults, we need to love ourselves before expecting anyone else to love us. Low self-esteem can lead to self-destructive habits such as abusing drugs and alcohol and engaging in risky behaviors, so it’s important to seek help. 

5. Problems With Intimacy  

If you didn’t receive the encouragement and compassion many of us seek as a child, you may find that you have problems with intimacy as an adult. If your parents were neglectful or abusive, you never learned to love yourself properly. This poor model of familial relationships can result in total avoidance of intimacy, lack of trust in friends or partners and even intentionally sabotaging potentially meaningful relationships in your life. 


If any of this sounds familiar to you, seek adult therapy from a professional. These issues do not have to define your future. You can learn new ways of thinking and behaving to help you on a path to a more fulfilling life if you participate in counseling.